Boosting your child’s self-esteem
Self-esteem refers to feeling good about
yourself and having the confidence to push through challenges and try new
things. Children who have strong self-esteem feel more secure and are better
able to cope with life’s challenges. They tend to believe in themselves and
feel proud of their accomplishments. Thanks to their confidence, they often
feel more open and accepted. When kids lack self-esteem, tend to be hard on
themselves and feel like they aren’t as good as other kids. They might be more
likely to focus on their failures rather than their successes, and they can be
afraid to try new things.
How Is Self-Esteem Develop?
Babies learn and absorb information every waking moment, and that includes self-esteem. Positive feedback and attentive care can make a baby feel safe and loved, and that builds his or her self-esteem. As children grow, they can strengthen their physical and mental muscles as they try new things, and your smiles and encouragement boost their self-esteem.
When a child feels accepted, he can enjoy a positive boost of assurance in his ability. When he earns a good grade or is praised for his hard work, he can feel surer of himself and more capable in the future.
You can help your children improve their self-esteem. In fact, every time they try new things, they can gain confidence and feel better about themselves and their skills. Learning something new at school or making progress in a hobby can be a great confidence booster. Kids can also get a self-esteem boost when they learn a new skill, such as cooking or art or when they practice an existing skill, like soccer or piano.
A Parent’s Role in Self-Esteem
All kids develop differently, including when it comes to self-esteem. However, parents can help their kids feel more confident regardless of age or current self-esteem level, including:
You can also model confidence for your
kids. Put your best effort into everything you do, even if it’s something
simple, such as setting up the table for dinner or dusting the shelves. That
shows your child that even the little jobs matter. Maintain a positive attitude
when you tackle your jobs, and you’ll show your child how to take pride in her
work. Avoid harsh and self-criticism, which can damage a child’s self-esteem.
Let your kids help, and be patient with them, showing them how you’d like the
jobs to be done. Understand that mistakes will happen, and instead of
correcting them harshly, focus on improvements for next time.
Strong self-esteem is grounded in a sense of competence, self-acceptance and well-being. You can’t simply compliment your child into high self-esteem. In fact, that might just do more harm than good. Instead, you need to offer your child plenty of opportunities to grow. A strong sense of self will help them rise to any challenge.